Four lies writers believe
From imposter syndrome to negagive thoughts about ourselves, we all live with lies in our heads. Writers have some common lies that affect us and if we put up with a lie for too long, it can influence our choices and behaviour. At the very worst, a lie left too long unchallenged can stop us from writing. With that in mind, let me share four common lies writers believe and the truth that will set you free.
1. I don’t have enough talent to make it
Have you ever wished you had been born more talented or believed that other writers were blessed with more skill than you? I know I have. But the truth is, writing is not something you have or don’t have. Writing is a practice and a journey. It takes time, patience and lots of hard work to build up good writing skills. Talent is only a tiny piece of the puzzle. What always outweighs talent is persistence, perseverance and practice. These things have always been the most accurate predictors of success.
2. I can’t show anyone my work until it’s perfect
Perfectionism is a big struggle for many writers. I struggle with it too. At it’s core, perfectionism is a fear of criticism or failure and it prevents us from moving forward. While we absolutely need to edit and polish our work, and it can be a time consuming process, there is a time to stop polishing and share with others. As the writer, we are so close to our work that we have blindspots and we need readers to point those out. Find someone you trust to read your work and learn when to release it. It’s okay if it’s rough or needs fixing or isn’t quite where you want it. All writers go through this and that’s exactly why we seek feedback. A good feedback partner will not judge your writing, but instead see the beautiful potential of your story.
3. I should always feel inspired to write
Writing is hard. Really hard. That’s why we sometimes find ourselves dreaming of writing when we don’t have time and procrastinating like crazy when we finally do have time. We naturally resist things that are difficult, but what we need to do is feel the resistance and do it anyway. Inspiration is fickle and it usually comes at times when we can’t write (for me it’s the middle of the night, while on a drive or in the shower!). That means we need good habits to help us overcome feelings of resistance and the urge to procastinate. Instead of waiting for inspiration, schedule a time to write and find what works to push through the resistance. Maybe it’s making a cozy space to write in or a timed sprint or rewarding yourself with a tea and cookie after you complete 500 words. Whatever it is, find the things that work best for you.
4. My writing only matters if I make money or become a best seller
There is a purpose and a place for your writing, even if it’s not what you pictured or imagined. I think sometimes bestsellers get where they are by chance. There are lots of beautiful stories that will never be seen by a large audience, but even if one person reads and enjoys your book, your writing matters. Every reader counts and if we start seeing them as people, not numbers, we can cultivate gratitude for each and every one. It may take time and patience to build up your reader audience, book sales and positive reviews - but it will be worthwhile when you hear from the first person who fell in love with your book!
I hope you’ll challenge some of the negative thoughts in your mind and keep writing, even when your own thoughts are telling you it’s not worth it. I’m praying you’ll come through the challenges you’re facing and remember how much your writing matters!
